Lessons From…Felicia Day’s You’re Never Weird On the Internet (Almost)

So, if you are reading this, there is 99.99% chance you know who Felicia Day is. If not, here. Now that that is taken care of, I recently finished her stellar book You’re Never Weird on the Internet (Almost). There isn’t any specific section that can be removed and examined more closely since it is all necessary to understanding the narrative and intended message of the text.

Accordingly, I will recommend that you read the entire book and gleam what you can and must. I will however leave this small excerpt in hopes of enticing you further:


Thus endeth today’s lesson.


On Memoir & Self Stories

Lately, I have been reading memoirs and advice books by celebrities, activists, academics, and experts on a variety of subjects. Seriously, my last major haul of literature involved autobiographical memoirs and advice books by Aziz Ansari, Nick Offerman, Ronda Rousey, Felicia Day, Bruce Lee, and a random assortment of others. Not on my usual big fiction kick for some reason.

So, an obvious question comes to mind. Why the hell am I reading so many books about self-help, opportunity, and general self improvement? The apparent answer would probably be because they are written by people I like, follow (through social media; not in a creepy stalker way), and admire. While this is very true, it doesn’t seem to fully satisfy the query.

Beyond my admiration for the authors and interest in the subject matter, I honestly think my recent literary interests have more to do with my innate desire to change my circumstances and life in general. The texts I am reading don’t offer a plan or even a real ‘how-to’ of doing things; instead, they offer more a life story of how someone succeeded and some general advice as to how maybe you can have some success.

That’s the unfortunate truth: if you find someone’s success and life that you want to emulate, chances are that you won’t be able to because no one’s path is ever really the same. I can’t do the same things as my favorite author and expect to be like him mainly due to the fact that he has already done it. Essentially, the books have been more inspirational than instructional and to some degree they have actually been useful.

I am currently studying for a major test that I will be taking in October to apply for graduate programs. As well, I am beefing up my skills and resume to get a different job. Whatever happens, I know that I will not be in the same place (physically, emotionally, etc.) by next August because I just can’t for my own well being.

So, thanks to all the random writers and books that I have read for that. It was necessary and long coming. Any book or film or piece of media that has inspired you recently? Would actually be curious to know what it was and how it helped.

On Opportunities

So I was listening to a rather old podcast, Making it with Riki Lindhome to be specific, interview with Felicia Day. I hope I don’t have to explain who Felicia Day is. Really, I do?


Fine, but you are seriously failing at the internet because of this.¬†Actually, you know what, you’re on a computer or phone reading this so you can Google her yourself.

In fact, I’ll make it easy for you; take a look at this and read here. I’ll wait.

We good to go?

Awesome, let’s continue.

Beyond the enjoyable discussion of Ms. Day’s career, I found one thing she mentioned to be rather profound and perplexing. She stated how once she was garnering success from her series, The Guild, several opportunities for television, books, and film were offered to her. Obviously, this is a good problem to have as an entrepreneur and entertainer. However, with so many options and her desire to continue her own productions and make her own options, she ended up turning down several of these offers and essentially closing several doors in the process.

Now, Ms. Day has managed to make the best of her chances, but the question that comes to mind is how did she know which opportunities to take and which to let go of? Honestly, a multitude of choices is just as frightening and frustrating as the lack of any. In order to move forward with a project, you inevitably have to deny yourself other opportunities. What if the choice you make turns out to be a great chance and the path you followed leads to nothing? Honestly, how do people make these decisions that could have such distinct and extreme repercussions? It seems like such an incapacitating action.


In reality, there is no real way to know which choice will lead to which outcome. The only thing that can be done is to make a decision and try to learn from the consequences. Frankly, it is rather scary knowing that and gods know I don’t always manage to follow this piece of wisdom. Still, in the future, I hope to take Felicia’s advice to heart and go with my gut and make the best of whatever scenarios arise.

Would love to hear your thoughts on opportunities, closing doors, and the, at times, terrifying act of making those choices.